Part 1: Unsolicited Advice From Someone's Mother
For all of you twenty-somethings out there, on the brink of the independence that you’ve sinfully coveted since you were twelve, be brave. There is a pretty large percentage of the population who have been there and done that. Even though you can’t imagine it, us old folks know some stuff. We know that deep down inside, you’re probably a little nervous about what your future holds. We also know that you should fear not as your future will more than likely work out just fine.
You’ve probably received tons of advice from your own friends, parents, mentors, third cousins twice removed, and ladies at the grocery store about what some would call your fantasy-filled future goals. Please know that your lofty goals are awesome and we’re a bit jealous that we didn’t think of them first. We want you to succeed!!!
To help make sure that you start your grown-up, independent, adult life with a fair shake at success, here’s a bit more unsolicited advice that probably sounds familiar and thus (hopefully) eases your concerns about being a real, bonafide adult person.
You Have To Start Somewhere: In your current experience-less state, you are destined for an entry level position. Even with your polished Type A tendencies, being the big cheese and making the big bucks will not happen overnight. If your first job requires you to cover the phones during staff meetings but allows you to schmooze with local celebrities after hours, you have hit the first job lotto. Take some time to recognize the perks--nice lunches, gift bags, travel you can’t afford, and an enviable portfolio.
Some of Your Friends Will Make More Money Than You: If you have chosen the life of a do-gooder, artist or lawyer, your starting pay will probably be much less than your friends who hit the ground running in nursing, engineering or even education. Remember, more money often means more sacrifice such as more time in school, longer work shifts, and less flexibility. If you are doing what you love, don’t sweat it. Use this time to learn from a mentor, build a great work reputation and make connections.
Live Below Your Means: Your first order of business should be to pay down student debt and save money. The easiest way to do that is to spend your money on what you need, not on what you want. If you can afford a brand new, fully equipped sports car, get a cheaper model. If you can afford a luxury condo, opt for mid-priced rental instead. If you’re paid twice per month, try living off of one paycheck for a while. Confidence comes with knowing you can afford that strappy pair of Fendi sandals if you really want it.
Growing up isn't easy... but it doesn't have to be hard either. Check back for more unsolicited advice from a mom who's not your own.